I have watched thousands of lovers. Every day they come to me; they bring their problems.
But the basic problem that I have been looking at is that lovers by and by come to a compromise.
The compromise is: You don't hurt me, I will not hurt you.
That's what marriage is.
Then people become settled.
They become so afraid of pain that they say, "Don't hurt me and I will not hurt you."
But then when pain disappears, love also disappears. They exist together.
OSHO