A real niceness for others can arise only if you are nice with yourself.
Start from there. Forget all about what you have been told.
Your priorities are all wrong.
Don't put the other as more important than you.
Nobody is more important than you.
You are the most important person in the world, you are the center of the world.
And I am not telling you to become egoistic: I am simply saying a truth — that each is a center to the whole world, to the whole universe.
God exists in you, you have to be the center.
I am not saying that others are not centers — everybody is.
But how are you going to understand others' significance if you don't know your significance?
Love yourself. And out of that love a great love will arise for others, because they are also like you.
OSHO